Thursday, July 31, 2025

Death creeps In from the lips





A trip to the dentist today, where I discovered that my last trip to the dentist involved some insurance fraud. They charged my insurance for x-rays that they never took. Ah well, where would we be without a little crime on crime. The dental hygienist was encouraging me to spend much of my future time at the dentist office, and to finally get rid of my wisdom teeth once and for all.  

I quipped - Well, you know what they say - death creeps in from the lips.  

She corrected me. 

Oh, no. I was making a joke about love.

She thought that I was perhaps too dark. It is, after all, only the South. 
But she had a job to do. She introduced some death to my gums. 


I came home and went for a pre-rain bike ride. Even losing weight isn't as much fun as it used to be. It hurts to gain weight and it hurts to lose it. The years just seem to push you into the creek over and over.


Google Blogger ate my post again last night. Luckily I had prepared by copying the text. Though it took me several tries to correct it on the platform and get it to publish. 

It ate my photo, too. It was like me when I was younger. I ate them once and for all. 














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Wednesday, July 30, 2025

The rain, even, reminds me






There is nothing but the past available tonight. It's everywhere I look. The rain, even, reminds me. It's falling everywhere and from all sides. We are in the swamp of summer here in Charlotte. In the mornings I go for bike rides, just like I used to do. That, of course, reminds me of my age even as it is making me feel marginally younger. It feels like I'm breathing moisture, even at sunrise. I go blind from the salt that pours across my eyes. Perhaps I've seen everything that I want to see. 


Before life takes it all, it takes everything over time. 
I recall: "At 50 everybody has the face they deserve." 
 
I hope that I don't look surprised. 

Tuesday, July 29, 2025

Oh, the heavy word is frightenin'





Raquel and I fell asleep last night to thunder and lightning. I would write about it but everybody already knows what it's like to lie in the dark and watch the room become suddenly illuminated, then to wait for the thunder. All the suspenseful movies become an amalgam of the present darkness. I loved it, couldn't stop myself from masturbating, didn't even try. I'm not sure how Raquel felt other than annoyed with me. We were there together, but who knows where anybody else ever is or was and will be. Life is a stupidly temporary mystery.

 
The boy was spending the night at his friend's house. He probably left the very nice and expensive mountain bike that he borrowed from me out in the rain, unlocked and visible from the road. Kids, etc. For him life is probably equal parts adventure and mystery. He is starting to live his life without us, soon departing on his chariot of fire.  



The boy being here less doesn't seem to have changed very much between Raquel and I. It must be our age, my mind keeps haranguing me.

Oh, palomino - oh, thunderclap.
Oh! Sweet nuthin'... 








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Sunday, July 27, 2025

It's all very simple




I didn't go see Willie Nelson and Bob Dylan last night. Something was off between R and I. Things have been off for about two weeks. I couldn't take it any more. I wanted to reprieve. I guess two weeks is my limit. I stayed home and watched films - Blood Simple and Aparajito. There was no apparent theme to movie night. I just wanted to be taken elsewhere. Not quite Ray's first film, but an early work. I know very little about his career, only that is is held in high regard. I can see why. The film was unique, unlike most films. It had a sensitivity to it that is lacking in many films. It is a manufactured contrivance, but its intentions seem less polluted by something... It's not intellect, because that is there, but something else. Perhaps a need to be regarded a particular way. Its sincerity is also its boldness. 

Worth a watch. 

 
Well, I had not sat down here this morning to write movie reviews. I am preparing to leave for a bike ride soon. I want to return to wearing headphones when I ride, listening to music, but getting hit by a car will change a person. It has made me more defensive and careful, cautious almost to the point of hesitancy. It aged me suddenly. Not like Willie Nelson and Bob Dylan - I grew older in an instant.  


The last six years has been pure gravy - fattening and difficult to consume on its own. 








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Saturday, July 26, 2025

The stamp of the doomed




I'm re-using pics from years ago - so what. I'm likely restating the obvious, also. It's what happens when the mind ages and surrenders. Try it, it's post-modern. 

Today we go see Willie Nelson and Bob Dylan, if they can both bear the heat. It'll be about a hundred degrees or more. I almost don't want to go, but the tickets were expensive and we both want to show the boy what effect the 20th century had on people. I just received a text message warning me about the hundred degree heat. It made no mention of the humidity. A youth must have sent it. 

I re-stringed one of my acoustic guitars this morning, the one that I play the most. It's a nice guitar though I treat it like an old "beater." I am often surprised at how long ago new strings were needed, but that I've acclimated to the sound of dull and aged strings. I become lazy about so much lately. Everything becomes a type of work, the philosophers call it play.  Philosophers - will they ever finally figure things out. They should get to work, pull their thumbs out. 


I must have stated all of this before. It seems impossible that any of this is novel. 

Predictability is a hallmark of the cursed.







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Friday, July 25, 2025

It's God shining through to me, I guess




Raquel and I went to see Ryan Adams on Wednesday here in Charlotte. He didn't even bother playing any of his big hits from the 80s.... He also lectured the audience relentlessly, offered to fight a few people, made up songs on the spot about Top Gun because he misheard something said from the audience, told funny anecdotes, mumbled endlessly, instructed everybody how to listen to his music and why, invented punchlines that apparently only he thought were clever, and then was also brilliant for the rest of the night when he wasn't talking. 

The couple sitting next to us bought tickets believing that they were going to see Brian Adams. They left about an hour into the show. I suppose they could not take all of the extended and uncomfortable confrontation between the audience and the artist. In many ways he is a complete bore. But there are the songs, performed by him alone. Raquel didn't want to leave. When he would shut up long enough to play a song he was like nobody else I'd ever seen before. Yes, I've seen many artists with talent, but none quite like him. He is a truly broken and shattered man, vulnerable and apparently dangerous.  

He played the Heartbreaker album almost in its entirety, acoustically. If you don't know this one... - well, I recommend it. It was written and recorded when he was 25 years old. It is one of those albums that might just save your life some nights. When the moon is just right, and so on. Other nights it might certainly destroy you. I've destroyed parts of myself to it. 

Is God playing evil tricks on me?


Is he?











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Tuesday, July 22, 2025

A gust inside the ghost





The wind, some rain, a little nothing. The day was wasted with employment, lost now forever. The rain arrived - thunderous applause, torrents, and all of that, etc. I stood looking out at it, this modest forest, watching the leaves of the trees glimmering with the raindrops, a dance of greens and blues and light, so many millions of bits of information moving in seeming unison, a dance that television static does just to do, unchanging and dynamic all at once - endless in boundlessness. So many gusts inside the ghost.


If any of us were to be free.











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Monday, July 21, 2025

Being old is of course disgraceful






It might not be a great idea to write here now. I am at the end of a very long day, filled with frustrations and disappointments, some work-related. Everything will work out, I'm told. It is best to only want things obliquely. Too much passion to do anything directly and well is suspect, especially from somebody as old as me. 

Being old is a disgrace. 


If you want to glimpse how disgraceful being old is, and you are past a certain age, then express some outrage or disgust. It doesn't even matter what at, it can be anything, but it is of particular interest to lash out at something that is perceived to represent youth in its current form. Even the things they claim to hate - they will not suffer you hating those things also. 

I'm no longer talking about work, by the way, but I'm glad I said something about it earlier - busy, long day, etc. 

I know you care. 


Back to the indignity of aging... youths will not permit you very much without openly regarding it and you as disgusting - sex, anger, passion, doing drugs, driving drunk. To enjoy once again any of the shameful and sloppy joys and mistakes that you made abundantly when young... at this age... you will get a glimpse into how much the young casually dictate to the old what behavior should be. The unstated expectations are tremendous. For all of their youthful energy rebelling against being told what to do, just look, and look very carefully, you will see the maelstrom of entitlement and hypocrisy. The little hearts of darkness.

They can not stop themselves.   


So, use your money to fuck a few of them at a time. Never let them forget why they hate you. 







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Sunday, July 20, 2025

Polar Bear





Well, let's try this again. I'm on my work computer, so everything I write may be entirely ephemeral. Or, more so than is to be expected. Perhaps my computer knows best. I'm still pissed off that it stole my Fitzgerald post. I was happy with it. I suppose it only shows that, like writing, happiness cannot last. 

I have tried to explain to Raquel that sensuality and eroticism are about as close a state to happiness there is that can be recalled at will, but she is in a different stage of life than myself. I'm still enjoying a form of puberty. She appears to be leaving it for good, and without regret. Ah well, such is the life of the sexually opposed and dimorphic. I'm her polar bear. 


The other day I found myself explaining to her why men find young women attractive - which was the easy part - but then I offered a few sentences to explain why women of a certain age start to lose interest in sex and become more assertive. I may have said aggressive. I won't try that again. 

I confirmed right away for her why I was wrong. I explored that wrongness for her as quickly and thoroughly as I could possibly run. Nothing helped. 

Some women you just can't reach. 


Ok, I'm about to click the Publish button. 
We may never see each other again. 






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Saturday, July 19, 2025

Oh, my Zelda





Again last night I wrote a post here and most of it was consumed by this same platform. Eaten, gone forever - Google had a job, to preserve what is written here. The post makes no sense without it, and the refrain is destroyed by the loss. 

Google, always Google.

I suppose it was my fault. I should have known or at least predicted that this might happen. Perhaps something has failed with the browser cache on my work computer. An invisible fault has become my undoing, my erasure. I forgot to copy the post before publishing. Everything except the final sentence was lost to the bytes. I was pleased with what I had written, and now this - yesterday's whine. 

Moving onwards. There is this post documenting that something better once happened. As if proof is required. It was a passage attempting to imitate Fitzgerald's writing from The Crack Up. On that I suppose it is perhaps best to have ambivalent feelings. Though, I liked the passage and nobody had to know, though it was hinted at in the title. 


Zelda died in a fire in Asheville, suffering from schizophrenia and the treatments they had for it at that time. The hospital is still there. Scott had died almost a decade before, believing himself to be a failed writer, which at the time I suppose he was. He was one of the very few things that WW II helped restore.  

"The fruits of victory are tumbling into our mouths too quickly." - Emperor Hirohito


Then wear the gold hat, if that will move her; If you can bounce high, bounce for her too, Till she cry 'Lover, gold-hatted, high-bouncing lover, I must have you!' - Thomas Parke D'Invilliers 



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Friday, July 18, 2025

We will waltz once





She insisted once, and then once again, on this new full measure of hysteria.









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Thursday, July 17, 2025

I've said that





The image and the first paragraph from last night's post vanished. I used italics, which has apparently caused Google more problems than they are willing to address, at least on this platform. Well, I hope it's not only me that's experiencing weirdness from the itals... Oddness around and inability to add italics has appeared on multiple devices and multiple browsers now. I am too lazy to research if it is a known issue. Besides, it makes me feel special, even if a bit inconvenient and results in occasional loss. It gave me back this paragraph, just now.


People become terrified of change. Slowly, I am. It has been much more sudden than I expected, but I still like to pretend I have much more to fear in the future. Fear of change is one of my anxiety leitmotifs. I should probably italicize that, or misspell it out of spite, but I'll let it be. What's done is dumb. 

Perhaps I am in fear of the past changing, also.







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Wednesday, July 16, 2025

I Fall To Pieces





Raquel lies next to me now, trying to go to sleep with some podcast playing softly in her ear. It's her trick.I can't imagine how it possibly works for her. It would keep me awake, I'm sure of it. 

The picture above was the boy wearing one of my Burning Man boilersuits, in the old apartment in Sonoma. He and I had a lot of fun there together. Looking back I see now that I learned something important there, that my happiness wasn't dependent on very much, but could still be easily taken away.

Not the most profound lesson of course but there were others. I was making good money and was free to do as I pleased about 50% of the time. I developed a renewed interest in photography, and began to enjoy a more solitary existence. I recall evenings watching movies in the living room, either by myself or with the boy. Waking before sunrise and going for a bike ride and to the gym. Reading in bed all day on the weekends without the boy. I learned to cook in a rudimentary way. I became pretty good at making a small handful of dishes - lasagna, coq au vin, whole baked chicken with potatoes and gravy, stews, baked fish, pasta dishes, all sorts of meats and vegetables on the grille. I possessed a modest but ever growing set of kitchen utensils. I started to improve at weekly shopping in such a way that I could plan basic meals. It lasted for about three years. 

Don't expect anything new. 

Tuesday, July 15, 2025

Selfies; so what





I don't have many other images, and I simply love peering into my reflection. I think that's what I love. It's difficult to remember. Everything requires practice. Spontaneity, for example. It's one thing you don't want to forget how to do, or get out of practice with for very long. I started to write about the result yesterday - tedium, but then I slipped noiselessly into incoherence. Some people never achieve craziness. They make it their ritual.


I'm going to lose things one day soon. They used to call it spontaneous combustion. They probably have a newer word for it now, or phrase. Nothing cool ever lasts. Everybody's life was better before the invention of something. For me it was the selfie. 






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The battle of incoherence and tedium





I've lived enough of a life to know that those two states - incoherence and tedium - will occupy much of the rest of my life, hopefully somewhat at odds with one another. Then, there will be some standard horror and terror and pain. Everybody, you know, just wants what's best.

I'm trying not to catalog my life here. There is little else to write about. My life is mostly boring, and yet it's still oftenest a fireable offense. So much happens after I've left work. 

How did you get fired on your day off? 

Well, I must have been giving 110%. The brakes just went out right as I was approaching the pier. 


So much of the life that I enjoy has been the result of doing only what I want. 

I hope that I can remember that much.






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Monday, July 14, 2025

Self Life Writing





Jesus, I'm a mess, an emotional disaster. I turn it into a joke, or try, but it all seems so desperate and stupid and pathetic. I could tell you all about it, but doing so is why I stopped writing here. I grew tired of hearing it, all of it.

So, I'll tell you about the complexities, difficulties, joys and etceteras of being a parent. Would you enjoy that? I sure know that I would.

I could tell you all manner of things. It's the nature of writing, a form of autobiography. Writers reveal almost everything about themselves if they keep writing. Lose the graphia portion and everything you do is just endless autobio, over and over and over again. 

Have I dismantled the word correctly?










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Saturday, July 12, 2025

Don't Look Back In Anger




I'm back, asking myself why again. There have been things happen recently for which I have few other outlets. Death, mostly. Death, or worse: possible soon-to-be deaths of women from my previous life. Perhaps it is wrong to group them together prematurely. We're told it's a sin to abandon hope. But how long are we expected to keep hoping? Until the end? Until our end? The math is stacked against us.

Serious illnesses, all of them. A girl I once married and tried so hard to love, her name was Aimless. I loved her too much and for too long, but not well enough. After all that, things ended quickly and without ease. 

Another girl who became a woman that I neither loved nor understood, but rather befriended for a few decades and then had to "ghost." Her expectations of me grew wildly out of proportion, where they likely remain. Stage 4 last I heard.

Now another. I'm not sure how to describe her.  I, with no rights in this matter, neither father nor lover. She referenced a letter I once wrote her shortly after we met. Apparently I described her well. She reached out through her difficulties to tell me. What does one say in such a situation? One should not attest more than their convictions, and always within the limits of circumstance. I wish her relief from pain and worry, and would do what I could, which is nothing. Worse than nothing. Her son is seven years old. 

How do you speak to those uncertainties. 


There was my own mother. It seems so long ago, and it is. 


Another friend's mother is now not long for this world. Perhaps I should not say such a thing out loud. Though this truth is often increasing. It is the recurring and eternal sadness. We are all given but a small handful of life. Rarely more than a hundred years, often much less. 



These intentionally out of focus pictures I took of the boy seem so strange to me now. I took them here in Charlotte, so perhaps only six months ago or less. He has grown much since and is taller than me. 

The tallest one in the house! 

Here he still looks boyish, or maybe that is just what I see when I permit myself the vague pleasures of nostalgic memory. 


It is odd to me, what we permit ourselves to see when looking backwards, or equally what cannot be avoided when facing forwards. 

What we can not permit ourselves to avoid. 

Trains, tracks, and time. 






"But all the things that you've seen slowly fade away." 




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